Child Therapy, Parent-Child Relationship

How to find balance between parents and grandparents

Can you remember your days as a kid when you were going to visit your grandma’s house and feel so warm and affectionate? You may have a plate of sweetsor cookies, and your grandparent might allow you to sneak one. You had a wonderful relationship with your grandparents, and you asked them about their background and education. Because not all relationships can be compared to grandparents.

Now go ahead and become your own parent and raise your children — your parents are your grandparents. You want your children to have a close bond with their parents to their grandparents. But it can cause friction if you and your parents do not embrace the way you raise your children. How do you treat yourself as a parent without taking into account the input of your loving and respectful parents? Let’s discuss about the tips to find balance between parents and grandparents.


Set up your duties

It is important, as a parent, that you clearly identify your role as a mother or father and your parents’ expectations. You will need to know what your parents – your child’s grandparents – feel their place in your life. Open interaction with everything from the number of expected visits and baby’s rules to who is responsible for discipline, food, potty training and other activities is vital for discussion even before your child is born. This dialog will continue as your child grows up and faces a variety of scenarios.

Consider the Cap

When grandparents undermine the parentage of their offspring, this often leads to conflict and confusion for the grandchild.

All parties should focus on what is best for a grandchild and open touch practice. Grandparents can provide helpful information and tips, especially for first-time parents. However, immediate parents should be in charge of choosing how to raise the infant.

Welcome your grandparents!

If the parents immediately disapprove of the advice of the grandparent, the grandparent will feel unwelcome and will not be closer to the grandchild. Although not all the advice of grandma and grandpa must be followed, it is necessary to listen to and respect the opinion of grandparents.

Encourage instead of criticizing

The right tone will make a difference between the feeling of motivation and the feeling of judgment. Grandparents should be careful not to criticize or circumvent the parent, but to support and assist the parent. Only telling the parent that they are doing something wrong is hurt. Grandparents should first try to praise the parent, and then offer advice as a nugget rather than an order.